We all know some stereotypes control the gender setting of both men and women, and as a result, there is an expectation from this gender and not from the other gender. Everyone knows that men must prove themselves in all spheres of life.
Let us take an example; let's assume a man called X is the family's breadwinner and always ensures that he provides food daily. This man is also the one who clothes, pays electricity bills, rent, water and others. With these scenarios, however, no one gives a damn because it is normality that society expects a man to offer—to provide more than required.
However, a sense of worthlessness would fall on the man who loses his fat job whose family responsibility, for instance, is taken by a woman who would start to do the same.
Society immediately blames a man as a loser with no bread to bring to the table or in any offer due to financial problems. The tendency to blame is highly likely in patriarchal societies. Members of this society would dare say it openly, they would not tell it, but they would show it impliedly in various ways. For instance, they would limit invitations to a broke man in fundraising meetings because the organizers know well that they can't contribute to the required funding.
Society blames failure in its highest form on women who have failed at the same degree in life because the tradition expects them to achieve more than required. In addition, the alleged connection between success and masculinity puts on much higher risks of doing more, of proving themselves. To a much larger extent, it takes out humanness in men.
In most cases, men who cry in public are seen as an image of weakness. In 2016, President Barack Obama was seen shedding tears on live Television while delivering a speech about his government's measure on gun control.
Despite several prominent persons having shed tears in public, a man crying in public is usually condemned as an act of weakness. This is not seen as a weakness towards females like it is towards which is seen as a fact of nature instead of being a personal flaw.
According to mental experts, the problem of these is that men are at risk of feeling unworthy, hopeless, or incurring depression because of the inability to satisfy societal needs that seem insatiable. To some extent, men are expected to fulfil physical feature requirements. For instance, leaving other factors constant, like those related to acts of God, gender norms prefer tall men over short ones.
Furthermore, men with higher incomes than their wives, who have a sense of humour, can at least make their date laugh and possess other high qualities are preferred. When men score a little of this quality, they generate a feeling of weakness.
Psychologists argue that women want men with this quality too, and it was found that they crave the alpha type of a man who fulfils all the required elements, which are, unfortunately. However, that man is mythical and hard to find.
Men are ridiculed from a young age for not crying. They are told 'crying is girly'. 'By hiding our emotions, our mental strengths are weakened'. Psychologists believe so. Also, society blames a man who dares to cry in public despite mental experts arguing that crying in public is healthier.
Because of these, men are forced to bottle up their emotions, and some men find themselves consciously or unconsciously in the purges of bad energy, like committing crimes, drug abuse, and suicide, among other hazardous acts.
Osho, a philosopher who lived (1931- 19900 asserts emotions hidden are later released as bad energy. He portrays that energy cannot be created or destroyed; therefore, without destructive power being removed from the body, negative energy will always be distributed.
From a feministic point of view, women don't get equal treatment as males, but contrarily, especially in modern times, men do not get much as required.